The best source of answer for your question is your own spine. Ask your spine why shivers run down you? But the problem is that most of us forgot the language with which we can communicate with our body.
The language of our body is a wordless, thoughtless one. We intuitively know it just as we intuitively know how to breathe or how to digest food. Our tongue intuitively knows the difference between salty and sweet food, nobody had to teach it. Similarly we were born with the ability to know what our body is saying to us. We just got lost and forgot the language when we learnt outer world communication languages and we learnt to use our thinking mind and then we started to use these two to try to communicate with our body.
You do not need to learn anything or do anything to remember how to communicate with your body and find out the reason from your spine. You simply need to unlearn and be in a state of non-doing being. When the thinking mind quietens down and sits quietly, the body will start talking in full glory and it is so beautiful. It may take a while because we have been so habituated to and used to living exclusively in our thinking minds.
Please read the linked answer below to find out how to quieten down and start listening to our body.
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Is it normal to experience uncontrollable self-talk?
If you define normal as something that happens with the majority of the people living on this planet, then yes, it is normal to experience uncontrollable self-talk. But if you ask whether it is good for you to experience this condition, I would say, no. In self-talk, who is talking to who? Self-talk means you are talking to yourself. But you need someone to be talking to, isn’t it? Self talk is usually the voice in your mind playing out. It is as if a recorded audio is on auto play in the mind. Whose voice? The voices of all the people in your life, the society around you, telling you constantly what to do and what not to do. It could be negative or it could be positive. If you successfully distract your mind from this activity, it would end up doing something else in the mind. These include the dialogues we carry out mentally with an imaginary person, memories of past events, worries about the future, planning, working, calculating, computing, watching something (video), listening something (audio such as podcasts), reading, studying, focusing, concentrating, paying attention, fantasising, imagining, dreaming, etc. We are habituated to this and so it seems to be happening effortlessly and automatically although we are doing it. Our mind gets tired of this constant uncontrollable, unstoppable habit and wants to rest. It actually gets exhausted. We easily know when our physical body is exhausted and we rest it by sitting down or lying down or taking a nap or long sleep or having a hot bath or a nice massage. But we have no metric or measure to find out when our mind is tired and we have no means to allow our mind to rest because any of the above resting that we give our physical body doesn’t rest the mind. Mental exhaustion shows up in the form of the following: Stress, worrying, indecisiveness, feeling restless, anxiety, panic attacks, depression, burnout, insomnia, impatience, constant irritation, etc. If you are feeling any of these it indicates your mind is tired and no amount of sleeping will be enough to make this mental tiredness go away. Long term mental exhaustion is the root cause for all the chronic life-style diseases such as diabetes, hypertension, etc. Positive self-talk is not an answer to this. It doesn’t help because the mind is already tired and we end up doing something more with the mind so it is neither effective nor does it give rest. I have written extensively in my Quora posts and previous answers about how to enjoy a quiet mind and allow our mind to completely rest and be rejuvenated. Please browse through and read a few of them if you are interested to begin controlling the uncontrollable self-talk.